Cotton Flowers

About Me

Your partner in transforming your life

I am a conscious parenting coach certified by Dr. Shefali Tsabary's Conscious Parenting Coaching Method Institute. 

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I am a mom, and live in NYC with my son. I am a student of life, and LOVE to learn and teach about LIFE's biggest questions:  

 

  • who are we truly?

  • what does it mean to feel truly loved?

  • what is HAPPINESS and where to find it?

  • why do we struggle with our closest relationships (mom, dad, children, partner)?

  • why is it so difficult to FEEL our feelings and so much easier to numb, blame, or keep busy to avoid feeling?

  • why do some people bounce back from life's challenges and others stay stuck?

  • why is it so difficult to CHANGE a behavior even when we know is causing us harm?

  • how is it that one same situation cause such different REACTIONS in different people?

  • where does resiliency, confidence, self-love/acceptance come from and can it be learned?

  • what is intuition and how can we tap into it?

 

I have always been a seeker. My interest in human relationships, deep connection, self-actualization, and resilience, coupled with the pain of many times feeling "not good enough", lead me to a self-discovery journey. In this journey, I discovered CONSCIOUS PARENTING, the practice of re-parenting oneself, and healing our inner wounds so that we can show up WHOLE to our relationships, specially to our relationship with our children. Our children watch and absorb not just what we say, but most importantly, the unspoken ENERGY with which we engage with them and with LIFE. 

 

Our kids have the power to crack us open, show us our unresolved issues and if we allow, they can be our biggest teachers in our re-parenting journey. If you are feeling lost in your parenting journey, like you are tapped out and do not know what to say, what to do to connect to your child(ren), conscious parenting offers a path that will set you free to be the parent that you always envisioned.

 

There is no manual to parenting, and parenting is not natural like many people say. It takes deep attunement, presence and compassion to raise another being. It takes a spacious, compassionate heart to be an usher in another person's life.  When we cultivate this in ourselves, and are able to attend to our own needs as adults, we then parent from the abundance flow of LIFE, rather than from fear and lack.

Our reaction to our children's behavior is ALWAYS first about us, and then about a need that the child is communicating. When we learn how to decipher which part is "ours" and learn to attend to this part in ourselves, we can then attend to the child in front of us and attune to the need they are communicating. This alone has been the KEY to transforming my relationship with my son. 

 

We are in this life to evolve, to learn, to figure things out.  When we allow our children to see us as HUMANS, who make mistakes, who don't always have the answers, who fail and try again, we are teaching them to that it's ok to be who they are, we are teaching them resilience. 

If you want a different way of showing up to your life to and your relationships, a conscious way, I would love to be your partner in transforming your LIFE.

Certifications

  • Conscious Coach certified by Dr. Shefali Tsabary's Conscious Parenting Coaching Method Institute

  • Pursuing the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program with Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield, The Awareness Training institute and the Greater Good Science  Center at the University of California at Berkley